a hundred jewels between teeth

you boys sure have a lot of friendship there

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My mother once told me that trauma is like Lord of the Rings. You go through this crazy, life-altering thing that almost kills you (like say having to drop the one ring into Mount Doom), and that thing by definition cannot possibly be understood by someone who hasn’t gone through it. They can sympathize sure, but they’ll never really know, and more than likely they’ll expect you to move on from the thing fairly quickly. And they can’t be blamed, people are just like that, but that’s not how it works.

Some lucky people are like Sam. They can go straight home, get married, have a whole bunch of curly headed Hobbit babies and pick up their gardening right where they left off, content to forget the whole thing and live out their days in peace. Lots of people however, are like Frodo, and they don’t come home the same person they were when they left, and everything is more horrible and more hard then it ever was before. The old wounds sting and the ghost of the weight of the one ring still weighs heavy on their minds, and they don’t fit in at home anymore, so they get on boats go sailing away to the Undying West to look for the sort of peace that can only come from within. Frodos can’t cope, and most of us are Frodos when we start out.

But if we move past the urge to hide or lash out, my mother always told me, we can become Pippin and Merry. They never ignored what had happened to them, but they were malleable and receptive to change. They became civic leaders and great storytellers; they we able to turn all that fear and anger and grief into narratives that others could delight in and learn from, and they used the skills they had learned in battle to protect their homeland. They were fortified by what had happened to them, they wore it like armor and used it to their advantage.

It is our trauma that turns us into guardians, my mother told me, it is suffering that strengthens our skin and softens our hearts, and if we learn to live with the ghosts of what had been done to us, we just may be able to save others from the same fate.

S.T.Gibson (via sarahtaylorgibson)

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Anonymous asked: do you have any song recs for a young girl who has just stopped pretending that she is straight and wants some songs about queer women that aren't by men? thank u in advance xx


hell yes i do. here is a list off the top of my head. all artists are queer (or non-straight if they don’t use queer)

  • "middle of june" by coyote grace
  • "young james dean" by girlyman (also about two thirds of girlyman’s catalog is songs about queer women by queer women, just so you know)
  • "voice on tape" by jenny owen youngs… this one is not like, explicitly about a woman, but jenny owen youngs is hella queer soooooo
  • this is a cliche i know but check out tegan and sara. queer sisters singing queer songs
  • "shades of gray" by sick of sarah, and likewise, queer girl band, check ‘em out
  • "me after you" by AG
  • me’shell ndegéocello came out midway through her career, i think around her second album? anyway all of her music is rad i recommend everything
  • "warm whispers" by missy higgins
  • angel haze is hella queer, listen to everything
  • tracy chapman doesn’t have a public sexual identity but she totes dated alice walker
  • "prove it on me blues" by gertrude "ma" rainey

apologies in advance because a lot of this is sad folk music, because the lesbian singer-songwriter thing is real and it is my friend

i cannot vouch for anyone’s politics on the list, btw, except girlyman because i know them somewhat personally

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